For YOU...WOMEN

Hello friends..
Greetings for the new year.. and sorry I am late in wishing you..
If you are here for the first time.. welcome..
Thank you for visiting my site.. and I hope you find it interesting and I also hope you will visit more often…
If it’s a good place to gather then tell others.. because admission is free and you can visit as often as you like...and stay as much as you want.. no limitations...
If its not good then tell me.. drop a line.. let me see if I can do something to make it better..

This year I want to dedicate this site to YOU.. my kind.. for all women – my friends, sisters young and old, and also all women all over the world…
I want to write more about our pressing issues – what’s bothering us and also what brings us joy, laughter and sunshine..
I want to talk about how we feel about inside the dark tunnel but I also want to talk about how we can get out and walk to sunshine..
I want to write about tears, laugher, joy, humour and also the stuff that no one wants to write but loves to read..
Please feel free to give your feedback.. as it gives me courage to write me.. and friends and sisters I do need it very much..
I am not the “guru” of anything, the more I live I find that I don’t know much about a anything.. and there is lot more to life than degrees, diplomas and certificates..
I am not the light of all lights.. I am you.. but just have taken the courage to write about things..

Lets stand up for ourselves, shall we? Lets support our kind and give each other courage and a helping hand to move on.. where ever we are, we need to move on.. for the better, for the sunshine..

Peace and Joy to all…

Niroma

Let's Pick-Us UP!!!

You feel paralyzed?
Immobilized?
Can’t think?
Feel empty?
What happened honey?
Did anyone turn back on you?
Break your promises?
Didn’t keep the word?
Kept you waiting?
Didn’t show up?

Sisters, such things happen to us
At the most unexpected times
Just when we think
Everything is fine and honker-dory
When we feel we are just about to
Walk out that dark tunnel
To sunshine…

Something happens so drastic
So painful
To pull us back into the tunnel of darkness
Don’t give up sisters
Don’t.. because it’s not the time..
Not NOW and for some of us..
Not AGAIN...

Relax.. breath..
Go within…yourself..
You still have that friend..
Your faithful friend
The only person who loves you unconditionally
The only person who never leaves you
Your higher power, your Godly Self..
Some may call it the Lord…
It does not matter what you call..
He is there for you..
Right within you..
Where you can access day or night
Weekends or weekdays

Isn’t it strange sisters?
We always wait for someone…
Another person to complete us
When we are – ourselves, created to be complete on our own?
Even when you know that you know your way?
Even when you know that you will be okay?
We wait and wait and wait
Or continue to look for that person…
That other half..
Sometimes, even failure after failure
Telling us “I can’t make it on my own”

This happens to the best of us - dear sisters
Us.. who are smart and able and capable
Us… sometimes, who are out there managing other people
Us… who others look up to as "leaders"
But in our most private moments
We tell ourselves we can’t do it alone
So we look for someone to pick us up
Even though we know very well
We don’t have to anymore

Look within sisters..
You always have a friend.. a companion, a partner..
You do..
Just within your heart and soul
That friend is always there..
Also wanting to be your friend..
Wanting to give you a hand..

No matter how dark your tunnel is sister..
He will help you through to sun shine
If only you believe in your heart and soul

No matter what has happened to you sisters
Lives or jobs lost, marriages broken, partnerships shattered..
Please know, you will come through this..
Easy? not may be..
But surely you will…

Believe in yourself and your higher power
It’s within you.. and within your access at any time
Find that friend within yourself
Join hands and walk towards sunshine..
One little baby step.. no hurry
You are not in race..
Take your time..
And know that, no matter who has left you
You are never alone…
We are all created with a built-in-friend
And sometimes, for a while in our paths
This may be the only friend we may spend our life with..
Specially when external bodies.. walk out on us
Turn back or break promises..

Don’t let any externals stop you from walking your path
Give up your dreams and goals you have for yourself
Don’t wait and wait for someone to rescue you
For it may not happen
Don’t think you are not complete.. without that special person..
You are a complete human being..
You were created as a complete human being
Not a half a human being - dont look for that half outside
that half is inside of you..
Right inside of you

Lets pick our selves up sisters....

Don't Cry .....

Don’t cry when I am gone
But smile with me now while I am here
Don’t fill my coffin with roses when I am gone
Remember.. I can’t see them nor smell them..
So what’s the point…
But help me fill my life with joy when I am here
I don’t need long speeches of how great I have being

When I can’t hear anymore

Who are you trying to please?

Me?????

Hello...I am not there.. I am gone...
Instead...tell me now – what is in your heart…
Especially the good things you have to say about me

I hope there is at least a few...
Don’t feel guilty that you could not do much when I am gone
Do something with me while you can..
Don’t mourn when I am gone
I don’t want to have any regrets.. I plan not to..
So… Laugh with me now..be with me now..
Help me live my best life now.. and let me help you live yours too...

I don’t care whether you attend my funeral
For I am not there to take attendance
I would not know whether you were really there…
Actually there wont be one as I plan to give my body to the college
So they could make use of me to the fullest..

My skin, bones and teeth and tissues...
Let them learn something and try something new
For the benefit of others…
And let me help them with my dead body before it turns to ash…

Don’t take time off your busy schedule to attend the funeral

Dont cancel those appointments or keep those living beings waiting...

I can't see, I can't hear.. for I am gone...
Who is there – I am not there – I have departed…
But if you, can take time now
And spend it with me while I am here
I would know that you were there for me when I needed you most..
Don’t spend you hard earn money to gather merit for me
I know my responsibilities and it’s my primary responsiblity to gather merit for myself - I dont expect you to do this for me...

I have made my path and I am walking on it..

I know I will be okay....
Don’t try to remember the date I depart
For it’s not important anymore…
But while I am here lets remember the date I arrived..
Don’t be mad if I don’t leave much wealth for you
For I intend to spend it with you while I am alive
What ever you want to do for me
Do it now.. do it with me..
Hold my hand, give me a hug
Make me laugh and smile
Bring me flowers…if you can
They don’t have to be expensive
You know I love wild flowers
Don’t give me Diamonds or Gold
Crystal or Porcelain
Antiques or treasures…
You know, I have no value for them..
Any time you are not sure what to give me
Give me a hug.. nice and warm..
Or a smile – sincere and true
I value them more than millions
Sing me a song or walk with me

Or tickle me...
If you are busy its okay..
But drop me a note and tell me how you are..
What ever is in your heart tell me now
While I can hear and see, touch and feel..

If you think I am always going to be around
Then you are in an illusion
Sorry to burst your bubble
But it is the reality of life
We who are born will die one day too..
When we get the call.. we have to go..
When it comes we have to go
May not have time for long farewells…

Don’t tell me I am negative because I am talking about death
I am not depressed nor am I sick
I am not out of my mind…
Don’t tell me I am too young and I have lots of time
For I have seen death has no age limits
It happens to all at any given time..
I am not saying this to scare you or make you guilty
I am saying you this because it is the truth
Everything else in life is uncertain
But death my dear friend is certain…
That is a sure guarantee

It's not over yet..

Broken hearts - shattered dreams
Lost hopes – teary eyes…

The night is long and cold
And unbearably lonely..
Feel helpless and hopeless
Your heart weeps with sadness
You life is crumbling down
Right in front of your face…
The dreams you had of a rosy future
The sounds of laugher and smiles of joy
You imagined one day would come true
The feelings of warmth and love
And now the ruins of a lost dream
Anger and hatred
Sadness and disbelief
Frustration and confusion
Now looking down upon you
Like a fearful monster
Making you helpless

Where to run, where to turn..
Whom to tell..
You wonder
Feel like a bird in cage with wings cut
Unable to fly

All the dreams you once had flowing..
Now shattered in a flash..
Turned to ash..
Can’t see reason – cant fathom
Can’t comprehend…
Can’t make sense
Can’t justify
What happened?
Why did this happen?
And why now?
What did I do wrong
To deserve such pain

Why? Why? And why?
Too many questions with very few answers
Nothing makes sense
Your whole body is weak and pale
Can’t feel you limbs anymore
But still…
You hear your heart beat though it’s weeping.
When you think when all else has vanished…
Turn to ash..
Hopes lost.. dreams shattered..
Life ruined.. mind weak..
Just when you think everything is over…

And you want to pack your bags and close your eyes

and say "Good Bye" to the dear world..
You hear a beat..
Yes..
The beat of your heart..
Perhaps to remind you
That it is not over yet….

Is your heart still beating? then it's not over yet....

If only we could.....

If only we could live without expectations
Our lives would be much happier
More peaceful and more relaxing

If only we knew how to live without any expectations
From our loved ones
Not expecting a reply to a letter sent
Not expecting a word of thank you
Not expecting to return a favour
Not expecting to be loved back
Not expecting a hug
Not expecting a smile
Not expecting a helping hand

How do we live without expectations?
I really don’t know…
Do you?
But I find if we could live without expectations
Our lives would run much smoother
Without a lot of disappointments
And heartbreaks and sorrow

But then again can we survive?
Living without expectations..
Is there a life without expectations?

Is it possible to live without expectations?

In the name of LOVE

Ah.. the things we do..
In the name of Love
To be loved by someone
To feel wanted and loved
Appreciated and respected
How much effort we put in
Just to be loved by someone…

Forgetting our own selves
Our own values
Our own boundaries
Putting ourselves down
Way down in the list
The price we pay..
The miseries we sometimes have to go through
The pain we have to endure
Just to be loved
By some one…

As humans why do we crave so much
For love from others?

but its universal..

Sometimes, we live just to be loved
By someone else..
Dreaming, hoping, praying and wishing
Just to be loved

by another...

In this process, we forget ourselves
Our precious selves
And we forget to love ourselves
And take care of ourselves
To give the same love
We give others…
And then suddenly
When the love we expect from another
Is not to be found
We realize not only have we lost that person
But we have also lost ourselves
Because in loving another
In wanting to be loved by another

We have forgotten us..
We have lost our own selves
But at the end of the day..
When the night falls
And the whole world is silent
When it’s dark and lonely
No one to love us anymore
We are stuck with ourselves
And when are stuck with a self who has lost its love
You are stuck with a unloving YOU…

As much as we crave to be loved by others..
Which is a human desire extending to animals
It’s always wise..
Not to forget to love ourselves first..

or love us equally
So that even when we lose our loved one..
We are still left with a loving self…

Wouldnt it be wise?