Searching for Happiness

Are you searching for Happiness?

When I was younger I thought I would achieve happiness through the material things I would possess, and also things like social status, etc. But now I realize it really does not.

I wish somebody had told me, for I would have lived my life differently. Well, I guess, it was all part of my journey.

I find happiness lies in tiny little moments.. they come and go.. and doesn’t really last for a long time.. Can’t find it in one particular location, thing or person. It’s all over.. and happiness could mean different things to different people.. so before you pursue it you need to know what exactly you are searching for..

Happiness to me is the feeling I experience when I walk bare feet in cool, blue-green grass, is also the colours of the sky at sunset or sunrise, watching the rain, listening to the birds chirp, the shy smile of baby, or tickling its sweet tender feet, spending quality time with friends, window shopping, listening to the sounds of beautiful music, savoring an ice cream cone on a hot summer afternoon, cheering my friends playing cricket at a park, sharing home cooked food with loved ones, attending to my plants in the garden, napping on a Sunday afternoon, having a personal relationship with god, dancing to peppy beat, being among friends, chatting with someone dear on net.. these are some things that bring me happiness.. they come in little bubbles, they don’t last long.. but still they are there.. they are in every day life.. they are inexpensive, and they are around you.. you just have to pay attention..

When I was younger I thought happiness was in the car I drove, the house I owned, the position I held, how much money I had in my bank.. so I pursued many many years trying to achieve these, by doing this, I failed to feel the happiness that was already present around me, I was busy getting ready to be “happy”, I thought one day, with all my hard work that I would reach the state of happiness.. and I could say to all.. “yeah! Now I am happy.. yippyyyyyyy!” well, it never happy.. how very wrong I was.

I hope you are not doing what I did.. for I wasted a whole lot of years.. and time is running out so fast, you cant take it back.. I find many people sacrificing their health and the relationships they should really value, in search for happiness. Sometimes, it could be too late, when you realize this..

What does happiness mean to you? find it and go for it.. Life is way too short..

Why?

Why is it so hard for many of us women to take care of our own selves? Even when we know we are falling apart and about to crack, we still don’t give ourselves the permission. Traditionally as women, we are the ones whom others expect to take care of others. But who really takes care of us? Who really asks us how we are doing? What we need? If we are okay?

Times have changed, many of us are ourselves the breadwinners of our families, and many of us juggle a career and a family. We are also human and we have needs, goals, desires and likes just like our children and spouses or partners. Even if the whole world forgets that we must not.

Just like for everybody human on earth, our creator also had a plan for us. And it’s not just being a mother, wife, sister, or daughter. We to can teach, lead, create, fight, dance and sing. We too come with a bag full of goodies, with god given talent. God didn’t forget us. God never told that we don’t value or we are unworthy.

Girls, mothers, daughters, wives, sisters – here’s to all.. if you have a dream go for it. First give yourself permission to take care of yourself – you are here, because god wants you to be here, and you have a place on this earth. You are needed, wanted and loved. You are not just a background prop, you are spotlight. So claim your right and grab your light.. go for it.. There may be none to push you, just like you push your family towards success, so we have to do it ourselves. If you get up.. and reach out.. if no one else does..God will give you a hand..

Go for it!

Changing Others...

Through my deep love for certain people close to my heart, I have tried to change them for the better, because I could see their path and what is lying for them ahead. But today, I have realized that it’s not something I could do. After spending many years trying to change their paths for the betterment of their own selves, I have failed considerably. Not just once but a few times this has happened to me.

Well, if only I had listened to the god’s voice inside of me, I wouldn’t have got hurt. But the truth is I didn’t. I realized I couldn’t change anyone. It’s only god who can do it. And god himself tells me even he can’t, if the person concerned is not opening his heart to him.

I am sure, some of you, like me have tried this. In my case I failed miserably. But I realize that this is because I tried to do something that I have no power and authority to begin with. No matter how much I love a person, or how much great intensions I have towards the growth of that person, I cant change a person if the person truly does not want to change. He or she needs to learn his lessons in his own preferred way. I personally try to avoid trouble.. When I see trouble heading my way, if I can I try to cross the road. I try not to fall in deep to the pit – but this is how I am used to. I noticed not all do this way. Some of my loved ones, regardless of how much assistance they get, still prefer to fall into the pit, or go “head-on” colliding with trouble. And I realize now this is how they learn. And yet, still a few don’t lean from their mistakes. They keep repeating them over and over again. They fall into the same pit again and again. It’s hard to see some one walking on the wrong path. But I realize now that this is how they learn their lessons.

What can we do? Just pray for them and let them be. And continue our journey on our own path. First, I thought it was selfish, but I realize now its not. For each person has a different path to walk on and we do it on our own way and own time. We really don’t have power to change others, especially if they are not open to being helped.

Are you constantly trying to change someone? I am sure it’s for good reasons but – if its not working then may the person is not ready to change yet.

Thank You - Dear GOD

Dear God

Thank you so much for your presence during these very difficult times in my life. I had felt most people had left me, but you are still with me, every single day - day and night. Thank you for giving me a hand, when I needed it most.

I now know that you are the only constant friend in my life, and that you would never abandon me. Thank you dear god for always being there for me. Your presence in life is such a blessing. I really couldnt survive without your love and support.

Thank you for your guidance dear god, thank you for showing me the way, thank you for holding my hand through my walk in the darkness, thank you for giving me courage, wisdom and hope and thank you for all the lessons in life. From each lesson I have learnt something absolutely great.

With all the things that had happened in my life, and also the things that are currently happening, I have leant a lot from these lessons. I have been able to still find strength in sorrow and sadness. I have become more courageous, wiser and more knowledgeable about myself, people around me and life. Through all these miseries I have become closer to you. As people distanced from me or I distanced from them, I have got closer to you and have found a real loving, loyal, sincere friend in you. Thank you for your friendship and extending your unconditional love towards me.

Thank you for being in my life.

God's friendship and love is extended to all, if you open your heart - he is there.